Is this like childbirth?

[beeger]

I’ve worked with a number of students over the years who have had situations similar to yours (men and women). It’s hard to speak to these things without actually working with you in the water. But here are some thoughts based on a fair amount of experience: First, remember that at all times you are in control and have options in the water. This sounds obvious but it is often forgotten. Panic usually comes about from feeling you like are not in control and “stuck.” Even with a mouth and nose full of water you are still in control. Second, slow down, not just physically but psychologically. Don’t be so focused on successfully completing a task. Focus more on the trying. For example, when the instructor tells you to clear your mask underwater, don’t be so focused on the end goal of clearing your mask. Instead, think to yourself “ok, I’m going to bring my hands up to my mask and see how that feels … now I’m going to tip my mask forward and flood it a bit and see how that feels … ok, now it is flooded … now I’m going to press on the top and breathe out and see if I can clear it … hmmm, it’s not totally cleared, I’ll try again … there, it’s cleared.” Yes, properly fitting dive equipment is important, but it's also important not to associate your stress with the equipment. Remember, it is you who are in control, not the gear.

You are undoubtedly focused on your upcoming trip, and this is causing you additional stress. Try to detach yourself from this. Maybe you dive on the trip, maybe not. Maybe you snorkel, maybe not. Maybe you work with an instructor there, maybe not. Anything … remember that you are in control and have options. Once you reduce the pressure of having to do something it becomes easier. Scuba isn’t for everybody, but I have yet to see someone who, all other things being equal, wanted to learn to dive who could not learn to dive. Unfortunately with the very limited amount of pool time that comes with the average scuba class you simply aren't given as much time as I think most people need. I would encourage you to explore options like additional pool time and help you get more comfortable. I’m sure your dive shop can suggest options.

Above all, cut yourself some slack.